A Writer Gives Thanks

The season is upon us for giving thanks.  To the casual reader it might appear that the pursuit of publication is a solitary mission.  For me that has not been the case.  In fact, if it were not for some very special people, I never would have had the courage or knowledge to sit here and write a blog about writing. 

For years I wrote in silence.  Only my husband and parents knew of the dream that took root shortly after I left my dreams of a life in the theatre behind.  My Father wanted to be my editor.  The fact that I was too self conscious to let him read my work, no matter how many times he asked, is a regret that I will live with forever as he is now gone.  My mother wanted to be my first reader and cheerleader, and my husband BELIEVED.  He believed in me 100% from the first day I uttered my dreams.  He believed without ever reading a word that I wrote, and because he believed, I started to believe. 

About four years ago, hubby knew that it was time to emerge from my cloak of secrecy and he (along with the kids and the dog!) gave me a membership to the Romance Writers Association (RWA) and New Jersey Romance Writers (NJRW) for Mother’s Day.  I never felt more touched by a simple piece of paper inside a card.

I was terrified.  Joining a writers association would lead to the inevitable…sharing my work with people who would want to pull it apart and tell me everything that I was doing wrong!  What I found, was a great group of wonderfully supportive women.  The writer is an amazing breed.  I have now attended numerous conferences, meetings and workshops.  All of these events are sponsored, organized and taught by successful romance writers.  The collective sharing of knowledge among the women in these organizations along with the recently formed Liberty States Fiction Writers, for which I am also a member, is enough to want to give thanks! 

So, thank you…To my first friends in the associations, who took me under their wing and offered a safe and fun place to work on my craft; to all the additional friends and mentors in the associations that I have since met along the way who have been so giving of their time and talents; to those outside of the writers circle who lovingly read my work…my mom and cousin who offered their best readers perspective; to my BFF and critique partner for giving me the safest audience of one to write that first draft for; and to my husband, who to this day has yet to read much of what I’ve written, but still unequivocally believes in me.  I am blessed.  Thank you!

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Establishing a Web Presence

The importance of a web presence for aspiring writers is imperative in this fast paced society.  Books, both paper and digital, can be purchased with the click of a mouse.  As an avid reader, when I find an author that I like, I Google them as soon as I finish the last page.  Thus far I have pushed my own web presence off to the side.  If you were to Google my name, not one thing would appear in your search… until now.  Not because I didn’t think it was important, but because of time.  As a married woman who works full time with a young child, I have a very limited amount of time to write.  When I do sit down at the keyboard, I want to immerse myself in the lives of my fictional characters.  I find them much more interesting and entertaining than my own life!  In the past year or so I started to approach my writing with a much stronger business perspective.  I have given myself writing deadlines, most of which I have met, and I have been much more regimented regarding the time I spend writing.  I have strengthened my networking skills at writer’s conferences and local writing association meetings.  I even created a marketing tagline for my future professional writing career that I added to a business card that may or may not translate to my website once I finish building it. 

Humorous Romance that Sizzles

Yet still, no web presence.  The other day, my BFF and critique partner said “You really need to establish a web presence” in a tone that brokered no discussion.  As I inch ever closer to publication I know that this is a problem.  It is time.  Immediately I thought Website…BFF shook her head and told me that it’s time to start blogging. 

I will admit that the idea of blogging terrifies me.  First, I am a relatively private person.  This is the number one reason, next to time, as to why I have yet to establish the almighty web presence.  I have vacillated for the longest time over whether or not to use a pen name.  Dragging my heels on a pen name has become a form of procrastination.  Until I establish my NAME, how can I have a website or blog?  Until recently it was rare for me to let anyone outside of my writing social circle know that I wrote.  What if I failed and was never published?  What would they think of me if they knew I wrote…GASP…ROMANCE?  What type of impact would having a mother published in romance have on my daughter when she is older?  In order to move forward on my journey to publication, it is time to face those fears. 

Having already stated that I’m a private person, I don’t plan for this blog to be about anything other than

  1. the pursuit of my dream of being a published author,
  2. observations I make in life as they relate to my writing and the publishing industry, and
  3. anything that inspires me to write. 

I know that as I share my journey pieces of me will automatically seep through onto the page.  It is inevitable, more so here than in any piece of fiction that I will ever write. 

I will leave with one observation about my writing and the name I have decided to put on my books.  I was born in upstate NY, lived most of my life there and in NYC where I trained for and pursued a theatrical career.  I have lived in the state of NJ for 14 years and the books that I am currently inspired to write are set at the Jersey Shore.  It has taken me most of my life to feel comfortable with who I am.  I am RoseAnn DeFranco.  I love my name.  It was given to me in part by the two people who lovingly brought me into this world, and by the man who married me and gave me his heart.  If that isn’t ROMANCE, then I don’t know what is.

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